Emotional Intelligence from a Psycho-Spiritual Lens
There is a huge misconception when it comes to Emotional Intelligence.
It’s not just talking about feelings- it is a much higher skill even more than IQ and a key determiner of your success in this life and the Akhirah.
In this modern era where everything is so fast paced, who has the time to slow down and check in with their emotions?
In the constant hustle of life, it is easy to be disconnected from our mind, our heart, our soul; constantly in a state of doing rather than being.
But there is a huge misconception when it comes to Emotional Intelligence. It’s not just talking about feelings- it is a much higher skill even more than IQ and a key determiner of your success in this life and the Akhirah.
So what is Emotional Intelligence from a Psycho Spiritual Lens?
1. Self-awareness
Self Awareness is always the first step as without it, you are unable to grow or make any positive changes.
‘Indeed, Allah will not change the condition of a people until they change what is in themselves’ (13:11)
Having the ability to recognise your own emotions, strengths and limitations, and the impact they have on others not only helps you have a healthy relationship with yourself but also others.
Always seek growth and trust your intuition.
2. Self-Regulation & Self control
Being able to regulate and manage your emotions and impulses is so important as we have been given the gift of free choice.
‘Who spend [in the cause of Allah] during ease and hardship and who restrain anger and who pardon the people – and Allah loves the doers of good’ (3:134)
What this means is that we have the intellect, the freedom and the internal resources to choose and make decisions, which are pleasing to Allah.
When you apply critical thinking you are able to navigate life with faith aligned choices.
3. Empathy
We all have our own lens from which we view the world so it can be difficult to understand another persons view let alone their emotions.
The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "No one of you shall become a true believer until he desires for his brother what he desires for himself". (Al-Bukhari and Muslim)
Empathy is a skill that takes practice and it first begins with your willingness to understand other people’s emotions and experiences, even if they are conflicting to your own.
4. Motivation & Discipline
I feel motivation sometimes gets a bad rep and mainly because we often tend to use materialistic
things to motivate us and when we don’t see results we give up. Your motivation needs to be intrinsic and your ‘why’ much bigger than surface level gains.
‘And give good tidings to those who believe and do righteous deeds that they will have gardens of paradise beneath which rivers flow’ (2:25)
Be purpose led and focused on your goals, overcoming hurdles and challenges with faith and grace
5. Social Skills
The art of communication is so important as it is through communication, verbal and non-verbal, that we connect with other people, build relationships and express ourselves.
‘We created you from a single (pair) of a male and a female, and made you into nations and tribes, that ye may know each other (not that ye may despise (each other).’ (49:13)
Manage relationships and resolve conflicts in the best interests of everyone involved, with kindness, compassion and forgiveness
As an Emotional Intelligence Mentor, my aim is to support high performing, ambitious women to excel in life by doing the inner work, without having to compromise on faith, family or finance.
If you are a rebel, a change maker, a leader who is challenging stereotypes and ready to smash those glass ceilings that limit you... then it’s time to do the inner work.
If you would like to have 1:1 Mentorship with developing Emotional Intelligence then click here to request a free consultation.
