Each of us has a unique Emotional Blueprint. Like a script of life. It contains our unique patterns of thoughts, beliefs, feelings and behaviours. Often these are a result of our own past experiences but many of these are patterns that span generations. How you respond to situations today as an adult is a result of how generations before you responded to events and situations and this is hard wired into your DNA.

Boundaries are integral to healthy & successful relationships. Boundaries help us identify and separate our needs, feelings, values, responsibilities and beliefs from others. They help you embrace yourself and your identity and also tell others how they can treat us and what is acceptable. When you struggle to be yourself for fear of the backlash you may get from family or the community, you begin to live a lie.

There is a huge misconception when it comes to Emotional Intelligence. It’s not just talking about feelings- it is a much higher skill even more than IQ and a key determiner of your success in this life and the Akhirah.

Whether it was a survival need, lack of emotional awareness or an inability to regulate themselves; parents who lacked emotional intelligence then raised children who were also emotionally disconnected. Abuse, trauma & adverse childhood experiences are given a lot of attention because it was something that happened to you or something you experienced growing up but emotional neglect is a result of you not receiving or experiencing something from your parents that was vital for your growth and development.

Being an over independent, ambitious woman I spent majority of my time stuck in masculine energy and didn’t know how to step into my feminine energy- there was a complete imbalance!

Allah swt can do anything and He always wants the best for us. If we are to internalise this and make it our reality, we need to believe in His abundance.

Self-awareness is not just about identifying what you need, or doing more self care or loving yourself which sometimes can often be quite surface level awareness

We are sold the idea to say affirmations, ask the universe, believe in the Law of Attraction. But there is a problem with this.

When we externalise our ability to receive, this removes personal responsibility and our faith in God being the only provider

Its important to become aware of and acknowledge the real reason behind self-sabotage behaviours so you free yourself to take the opportunities, without fear, pressure or expectations

If you were made to feel unimportant as a child or you felt rejected, then it is highly likely you experience this feeling often as an adult.

You know the time when we become really emotional- and sometimes can’t really explain why

When emotions overwhelm us, we can become dysregulated... I know you have been there (I’ve been there too!) and I want to say it’s totally normal!

Be mindful of your actions and renew your intentions as on this journey of growth and self development it is easy to fall into the trap of the modern world.

And remember: You 're worthy from the time of your birth by the mere fact that you are Allahs creation.

Be mindful of your actions and renew your intentions as on this journey of growth and self development it is easy to fall into the trap of the modern world.

And remember: You 're worthy from the time of your birth by the mere fact that you are Allahs creation.

The realisation that I had been chasing the wrong things and felt lost the whole time made me cry my heart out for the duration that I was in Mecca, all the time feeling safe and enveloped by Allah’s light

I see this so often where the modern, ambitious woman is having to choose between her own dreams, goals and ambitions whilst fulfilling the duty of a mother and a wife.

But where have these expectations come from? One thing I do know…

When you don’t pay attention to what your emotions are signalling it’s easy for stress, overwhelm and burnout to creep up on you.

Here are 5 signs to watch out for and tips on how to cope and manage the symptoms

Have you had that moment in life where on the surface you have it all? When you have worked tirelessly to reach a goal or milestone but now that it is in your grasp, its meaningless? Your smiling but theres an internal battle that you are struggling to make sense of?

My name is Shareen and I am a Mindset & Emotional Intelligence Coach supporting women reach their goals without compromising on their faith, family or health through the use of Islamic Psychology and Emotional Intelligence.

We are the perfect design of God and for us to truly thrive the inner work has to begin inside out; including our mind, our soul, our heart, our emotional state, our intellect, our innate creativity and curiosity, our deep desire and drive to excel & grow and our ability to love and show compassion unconditionally.

You can only live in integrity of your values and be your authentic self if your values are part of EVERYTHING YOU DO.